Miss Lonely

One day a kid asked me, "why do some girls always need to have a boyfriend?"

I had some answers that question, but I decided to let the kids discuss it themselves. Teachers aren't only responsible for children's intellectual growth, but emotional and social as well. Sometimes you have to let the kids deal with the life issues instead of reading and writing.

After their discussion, I asked the kids, "so why do some girls need to always have a boyfriend?" A couple of kids responded by saying that the girls just want to be able to gloat over their unattached peers. A few more said that some girls want someone they can love.


Awwwww, how sweet.

However, the majority of the kids said that girls need boyfriends because they feel lonely. Some even said that girls can get desperate. A bunch said it in a nicer way such as, "wanting someone other than family to care for them." Bottom line: Girls are lonely.



Of course this didn't come as a surprise. I have/had some friends who are the type to always have a boyfriend. They jump from guy to guy to guy, but never really find that right one. Heck, they're lucky if the one they pick up even treats them nice. One girl used to tell me, "I don't want Mr. Right. I want Mr. Right Now." She ended up in a lame marriage that fell apart. She might have gotten into drugs too.

So this drive to not be lonely easily leads girls into disastrous relationships. Usually nice guys come around to pick up the pieces, then get to watch the girl totally ruin her life yet again. Isn't that the definition of insanity? Doing the same mistakes over and over again?



After learning what I've learned, I don't think I will be willing to pick up any pieces. At least not for free. It might be more fun in the short term to point fingers and laugh while doing the, "I told you so," bit. In the long run, it might be better too since I won't have to put up with a bunch of emotional crap. Ooooo win win.

Anyway, to any girls out there that need to use guys for backbones, perhaps it's time to start learning how to be ok with yourself. Also, try getting a few good friends. Don't forget to treat them nice. Good friends will help you a lot more than bad partners.